Single & Loving It

I don't know how many boyfriends or frogs a girl is supposed to kiss before she finds her Prince charming, but for me, I have had 4 boyfriends in my short 26 years of life. Boyfriend number 4 was the best relationship I have ever been in, but unfortunately, due to things beyond my control, we decided mutually to end our relationship. After him, I told myself and God, that the next man I called my boyfriend would become my husband. Those are some powerful and confident words, but 4 disappointments was just too much for me and I didn't want to be one of those girls who go through countless boyfriends; getting nowhere. I have a vision for my life and it includes getting married and starting a family one day, and I feel that there is no need to enter relationships that dont promise or even offer the slightest glimpse of that.

So yes, I've been single for quite some time, and while the number one reason is the promise I made to myself as a young girl, another reason is because I'm simply okay with being single. I love it actually. I am quite content with waiting for the one that is right for me...my Prince. There is a lot of negativity associated with a single life but I happen to see and relish in its positives. A lot of women dont feel the same way. They need to be with someone at all times in order to be happy. This isn't characteristic of a strong woman. I on the other hand embrace my youth and my exclusivity. I don't need anyone to make me happy as I am the source of my own happiness and I put my needs and wants first, which is the very definition of self-love: the regard for ones own happiness or advantage. Being single has allowed me to spend time getting to know myself. While single, you learn about your needs and wants, what you like, what you dislike, your dreams and aspirations, what you look for in a man and essentially what it is you want out of life. You get to know and truly love yourself, which as you know by now is key.

Single life shouldn't be frowned upon with so much negativity and disdain as it is. Being single is a great thing. To my single ladies out there, this is the time to really enjoy life and to exercise your independence. Get dressed, get your nails and hair done, go shopping, go out with friends, try new things, meet new people, stay active and do you! You'll find that as you're living life, things like love will fall into place in due time. Let single-hood empower you and liberate you. Be free, have fun, stop sulking, and go out and enjoy life as a single woman.