My last post was a little long but the topic of judgement is quite dense and can be approached from so many different angles, so I decided that I'd like to further elaborate on this topic by addressing the men. A lot of men are guilty of some very harsh judgement and labeling of women. Did you know that the girl you see hopping from bed to bed...you know...the one you're calling a hoe? Well she was actually raped as a child and now feels that she is no longer of any worth. She feels valueless and fails to see the necessity in preserving and respecting her own body, a moral and standard that was stripped away from her after being so cruelly violated. What about the girl you are calling a slut? She is actually mirroring and acting the way she saw her young mother act while she was growing up. She doesn't know any better because she was never taught any better, as the mother was only a baby herself. She also grew up fatherless and is yearning for love from a man she didn't receive as a little girl. Every time she gets in bed with a man it is not to fulfill her sexual desires, because the truth is, all she can think about is falling in love and being loved in return. She is naive and believes that by sleeping with the likes of you, she will receive love, and she regrets it every single time she realizes that that is not the case. These women are broken and lost; they need to find their way. Sluts and hoes, as you so ignorantly call them are women who are usually scarred and in need of serious emotional repair. Do you still think she deserves the title you've given her?
I am not justifying the behavior of these women in any way but I am asking, on their behalf, for a little understanding. You want nothing to do with her because in your head, she cant possibly be 'wifey' material and she doesn't have class or self-respect. These are the women who get used and abused, tossed aside; overlooked. You discredit her before even giving her a chance or before taking the time to find out that she is actually a phenomenal woman with a good heart. Unfortunately, she has experienced things that have changed her and have scarred her and she didn't have the support system she needed at a young age that would have instilled in her the morals contrary to the behavior you classify as slutty. Yes, her actions may be due to lack of self-love and self-respect, however, it is not fair for you to judge her to the extent that you do without grounds to do so.
One thing that upsets me is the way you guys class her and still use her at the same time. She's a slut and she's a hoe yet you're still willing to have sex with her? I don't understand it. You guys facilitate the name calling and labeling by sleeping with her and running off to tell your little friends how you got what you wanted from her and they should get in line. It's disgusting! Women are governed by emotion and a lot of the reason they give up the goods is because they genuinely have feelings for the man who lead them to believe he had a deeper motive than just sex. Stop leading women on and calling women whores in the same breath. How is that fair? And frankly, why would you went want to sleep with a so called 'whore'? You seem to talk about them with so much disdain yet ya'll are the ones creating them by sleeping with them. I shake my head at this vicious cycle.
Honestly, men need to do better. You can't discount a women because of her past. You wouldnt like it if it was done to you. First, take the time to get to know her and learn about her before making your decision about her. You have a crucial role when it comes to the women you encounter regardless of their alleged sexual behavior. In my opinion, you are here to strengthen and uplift, not to break down or disrespect. Sometimes these women are so broken that a lot of what they do is to try and cope with the pain of being hurt, or simply because they weren't taught. All some of these women need sometimes is someone to show them the right way and to restore them from brokenness. Although I'd argue (and I think I just might in my next post), that it takes a great woman to overcome her past misfortunes on her own, I still believe a good man can be a source of positivity in her life. To me, it takes a great man to overlook a woman's past and to uplift and really support and expedite healing and mend brokenheartedness. I think it takes an even greater man to put away their dicks sometimes and stop some of these fast women in their tracks. But I'm obviously living in an fantasy world.
Some of these women dont believe in love anymore because of, not only men but even other women who discount and degrade them over and over for their unfavorable actions. These women need to be loved despite their flaws and past mistakes, someone to remind them of their value. A good man...a real man, has the power to do this. I feel there is a greater responsibility placed on men to assist in the change and shift in mentalities among young people in our society today. I am pushing for more self-respecting and self-loving women and I admonish you to play your role in this movement toward a healthier tomorrow.
I'll leave you with this thought. Men, one day you're going to want that specific girl who wasn't perfect. Maybe she slept with a few men, or lacks self-respect now, but all she ever wanted was to be there for you and to love you. The girl who sees your flaws but values and appreciates them and doesn't judge you for them. The girl who cant bring herself to hate you, even though you probably deserve it, who realized she may never have your heart but will carry the memory of you with her in her heart forever. When you do realize that this is the girl you've been looking for, it will be too late because she going to be with the man who already knew her value despite her imperfections.
